The Ego/Mean Girl Ruins Everything

"Don't let the ego to control your life, you are the leader of your life and you are the one responsible for your own life".

If you think you're the only one restricted by your inner mean girl voice, you're absolutely wrong. We all have this evil voice that tells us we are not good enough, smart enough, successful enough, healthy enough and whatever enough. We all have fears and we sometimes cannot face them well. Sometimes we tend to hide them under the carpet and pretend they do not exist. The truth is they do exist and they wait for the right time to pop up in our minds. 

When I was a kid in primary school, I don't remember I had fears. Only when I grew up and started high school I began to face more and more fears, you know why? because I let the evil voice hang out too much time, thus I hung out in fear town. When I turned out twenty I finally realized what the issue was and became facing it and now I can proudly say I learned to master my inner evil voice. This inner evil voice is the ego or as I and Melissa Ambrosini (a well-known writer of Mastering Your Mean Girl and Open Wide books) like to call it our mean girl/mean boy. 

Melissa Ambrosini- Mastering Your Mean Girl Book

I would take a moment here and tell you how her first book changed and still changing my life for the better. Not only I purchased her two first books, but I also had the urge to purchase her Mastering Your Mean Girl Program online which is all about mastering the ego on a daily basis. 

We've got to reprogram our minds to live a better life and burst with love every single day. 

Every day is another opportunity for creating, learning, evolving and growing, I am trying to keep this in mind every morning when I come up to meditate. 

So back to our main topic, our ego/mean girl (choose the name you like more, I will refer to this voice from now on as ego) tries to keep us behind, he wants us to hang out in a fear town and stuck in there. He feeds us with our past which no longer serves us and the future which doesn't exist. 

I once read somewhere that there are no past or future, there is only present tense. 

Why? imagine you eat a whole bowl of spaghetti, it's delicious and you're enjoying it in the present. This moment will not take you forever to finish this bowl, you'll finish it in 10-15 minutes depending on your speed. The fact is that this moment will be over and once you're done, it will be already considered as past. The future doesn't exist too, because it's still unknown. Therefore we all live in an endless present and there is nothing to be fearful of. If you think of that in this way, you'll begin to feel a shift in your motivation and in your emotions too. 

Melissa Ambrosini- Open Wide

The ego cannot survive in a present moment and it cannot survive in a place where is joy and happiness. Once we no longer give it power, it disappears. 

You also probably have heard this before: "life is too short, so you should do things that light you up". This sentence is not here to scare you and remind you that your death is close, not at all. This sentence reminds you that you've got to do the things you like and bring you joy because you can and you're allowed in spite of what the ego says. So embrace your life altogether and keep going with your truth. Keep reminding yourself how magnificent you are, this is another powerful thing I learned from Mastering Your Mean Girl. When we dial our worthy o-meter up to 10 we feel incredibly strong, powerful and even leadership. When our worthy o-meter is almost at zero, you begin to feel completely the opposite. So keep dialing it every day to 10 and not lower, it has always to be 10.

How should you keep this rythm?

Journal, journal, and journal again. Every time you feel a little off, scared, panicked, frustrated etc journal your thoughts and feelings in your favorite notebook and remind yourself of your talents and gifts to the world. This will definitely shift your mindset to 10 on the worthy o-meter scale. 

You can also talk about your feelings with the people you trust like family, partner or closest friends. Get creative every day, once you're creative your ego cannot survive in the world of beauty and color. 

Do things that bring you joy and smile/laugh when you feel like it. Don't listen to people who bring you down, surround yourself with people who make you laugh and be the best version of yourself possible. 

You're doing a great job and remember how worthy you really are.

Keep shining your truth beautiful soul!

Best wishes,

Lea.

P.S: there's a good voice in our hearts which is our intuition. It is guiding us all the time and gives us signals from the universe. We all should pay attention to signs (any kind of signs), they might serve us during our journey.